Sunday, 25 January 2015

Learning to Say No...

“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” ~Josh Billings





merk

verb
1. To kill someone
2. To beat someone at something
3. To insult someone
4. To do something to someone that causes them to feel merked

adj. (merked)
1. A mix of feelings including a combination of at least two of the following emotions; embarrassment, frustration, annoyance, confusion, irritation and powerlessness. Examples include; being lost and having no reception on your phone to check google maps, locking yourself out of your house and having to pay a locksmith over a £100 to get your locks changed, or transporting a wedding cake to a venue only to find that it collapsed in the box along the way & you only have 30 minutes before the guests arrive to fix it!

Merkage is always avoidable, always, but that is what makes the feelings worse. 



So now that I've clarified (to an extent) what I'm talking about, let me tell you about the last time that I was merked. I am having some work done to my garden and have been inviting gardeners to give quotes. One lady arrived on Saturday morning, moments after the window cleaner had finished their work. The front of my house was very wet even though it wasn't raining outside. Anyways, I opened the door and the lady walked into the house barely drying her feet on the two mats outside my front door. Her first step left a massive muddy shoe print on my wooden floor and she proceeded to take two more steps leaving two more muddy wet footprints. 


I was merked, fully & completely, and did what all conscious human beings do; I stopped time - well dramatically slowed it down anyway. As she turned in super slow motion to face me for further instruction as to the way to the garden, I pondered on my options. 

Option 1 - I bite my tongue and let her walk through my house leaving horrible muddy puddles and just clean up when she's gone. I had visions of her doing the running man in her dirty shoes on my kilim rug & moonwalking through my clean kitchen to the garden.

or

Option 2 - I tell her go back and wipe her feet before coming any further, making everyone feel super awkward.



I chose option 2. 

It was very awkward as I sent her (politely) back outside to wipe her feet (as any civilised human being would do). It was really awkward, but 100% necessary for me and the happiness of my kilim rug. I mean really! Who does that anyway?!

It was a victory for me and the shape of things to come. As I alluded to in my last post, 2014 could have been called "The Year of Merkage". I didn't say no enough and instead allowed people to rob me of my energy, time, love, happiness, creativity and money. By not saying no, go and wipe your feet before you come in my house, I let people trample all over me with their muddy shoes! No more I say!




Excited by my new found strength, I decided to celebrate by making one of my favourite cakes - the naked vanilla cake. I am a big fan of "less icing is more" when it comes to cakes. I also love berries, meringues & edible flowers so threw everything together in one cake because that's how I'm rolling these days!

The cake is a vanilla sponge with vanilla buttercream, sugared berries, meringue kisses and pansies (edible flowers). Click below for links for all of the recipes (for the cake, double the recipe and cook in an 8" inch tin and double the buttercream recipe);




All that's left to say is that I have green highlights in my hair. I wanted turquoise tresses but instead it's green and yes, I am a little merked.

Peace & love

xx
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Sunday, 18 January 2015

New Beginnings

New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings. Lao Tzu



This is my first post of 2015 & it's been many months since I last blogged. I guess I need to do a little explaining...


2014 started out great, I was full of dreams and ready to take my passion to the next level. Somewhere along the way though, I found myself in the midst of burnout, struggling financially and generally feeling as though I had throughly lost my way.


I had originally planned to go into more detail about what happened but suffice to say I found out who my friends were and more importantly who I am. 


Life has a way of teaching you things through difficult times. We'd all love to sail through life growing and evolving in the midst of happy times but the truth is that's not the way it goes -and that is okay. I've made it to 2015 and have many new beginnings to look forward to. 



The two very exciting ones are my first book which I am in the process of completing, (one of the cool things that I started in 2014) & my new home (again, another cool journey I embarked on in 2014). Rest assured that I will tell you all about them in due course. 


Awesomeness lies ahead & whilst we readying ourselves to embrace it, I made brown buttered cupcakes with caramel buttercream (as you do!)

Here's to a beautiful new year filled with promise & tasty buttercream. 

Peace & love

Xx



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Monday, 26 May 2014

Add a Kilo of Love - Mindshackles



"I think, for me, I've always struggled with my moods and my emotional well being. Even as a child I was very melancholy and used to try and run away from home and commit suicide when I was really young. As an adult, I was really surprised at how going through a serious life-changing event [can] bring you back to that place, when you think you've got over it. I realise that the more you're open about those things, the more you give other people the permission to talk about it. To not be ashamed. So yeah, I think it's important that people share their stories." Excerpt from the interview


A good friend of mine, Iesha Small, recently embarked on a multi-media project looking at depression and the ways that people deal with it and asked me to take part. Last week she posted my interview and after spending a week being scared to death of what people would think, I took the plunge and shared it on my Facebook page. I have been moved with the response. So many people could relate and now more than ever, I realise how important it is to keep things out in the open.

It's my personal journey and I hope that by sharing, in some way it can help you or someone you know.

Click here for the link to the full interview.

Peace & Love

xx
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